It’s challenging to begin a new relationship after having had cancer. I’ve written about that, as have many others.
But what about the other partner in a new relationship — the one without cancer?
One woman put it this way: “I feel like cancer is a member of his family. I want to understand and help, but he never wants to talk about it.”
This reminds me of those old movies in which the visitor realizes there’s a mysterious person living in the attic. This person is never mentioned, even though his footsteps are heard from time to time. The newcomer is concerned and curious, but it’s clear that questions aren’t welcomed.
That’s not a comfortable situation in the movies or in real life.
I encourage the partner with cancer to be…