To My Husband, Who Has Supported Me ‘in Sickness and in Health’


man and woman walking together and holding hands

I remember sitting in math class and having the most annoying guy sitting behind me. Every day I’d go into class knowing he was going to be there ready to do something to get on my nerves. Let’s just say, we didn’t like each other very much… Fast forward a bit, and I am now his wife. Let me tell you why I know he took the vow of “in sickness and in health” so seriously.

Once we graduated high school, he went off to serve our country and jump out of planes in the Army. I went off to college to pursue a career in art. At this point I had already had two spinal fusions due to my twisted spine. I was majoring in graphic design with a minor in computer animation.

When my husband, “Alpha Squad Leader,” came home from the Army for good, he started hanging out with a mutual friend and we reminisced on how much we liked each other in HS (insert sarcasm here) and ended up dating. He was aware of my scoliosis issue and knew I just had my final spinal revision just weeks before. I was a bit embarrassed by it, but he didn’t care.

Our dates consisted of running, movies and dinners. Perfect for me but also painful at times, of which he was very considerate and understanding. But I really liked him and I didn’t want to lose him so I hid my pain and struggles a lot from him. But the pains got worse and our dates changed to more time in my bed watching movies and him picking up my meds and getting me food.

I figured, oh well, that’s it. I lost the man of my dreams. Thanks to my “disability” I will always be alone. But one night I felt OK to go out to have dinner. And he pointed out that my…