Parents may be able to prevent some spells by seeing that their child
gets plenty of rest and that he or she feels secure. Some ways to help your
child get enough rest include:
Having regular rest times for your child during
Ensuring that your child gets adequate sleep at
Here are some ways you can help your child feel secure and less
Have regular daily routines for your
Keep your home atmosphere calm.
Allow your child
to make some simple choices, such as which shirt to wear.
your child for behaving appropriately and meeting your
Praise your child when he or she learns and masters
new tasks, and afterward when he or she does them well.
Encouraging your child to play alone will help your child develop a
more positive self-image. This also can reduce feelings of frustration.
Some parents are so upset by breath-holding spells that they shelter
the child from any and all frustrating situations or may fail to set consistent
limits for the child in an effort to prevent the spells. As a result, the child
doesn’t learn other ways to express his or her frustration and anger.
Even if the parents’ efforts succeed in preventing breath-holding
spells, the behavior problems may remain. To avoid this problem:
Do not overreact to your child’s negative
Do not overreact to breath-holding spells. When your
child is beginning a spell, suggest an alternative way of expressing feelings
of frustration, anger, and fear, such as “Use your words.” After the spell,
acknowledge your child’s behavior and feelings.
overprotecting or sheltering the child from the normal frustrations of
childhood. Minimize unnecessary frustrations, but do not try to remove them
Remind yourself that breath-holding spells are not hurting the
child and that the child will grow out of them in time.
fair, and consistent when establishing discipline for your child. Set limits
and follow through with consequences.
If you struggle with any of these issues, parenting classes or
counseling can sometimes be helpful.