Topic Overview

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Anger and arguments are normal parts of healthy relationships.
But anger that leads to threats or violence, such as hitting or hurting,
is not normal or healthy. Physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual abuse are not
acceptable parts of any relationship.

Violent behavior is any behavior by an
individual that threatens or actually harms or injures the individual or others
or destroys property. Violent behavior often begins with verbal threats but
over time escalates to involve physical harm.

Violence is learned behavior, so it is especially important to help
your children learn that violence is not a healthy way to resolve conflict. Set
a good example by handling conflict in a calm and thoughtful manner. Never use
violence, such as spanking, pinching, ear pulling, jabbing, shoving, or
choking, to discipline your child.

There are some things that can make a person more likely to be violent. These include:

  • A history of childhood abuse.
  • A history of violent
  • Low self-esteem and feelings of
  • Alcohol or drug use or abuse.
  • Mental
    health problems, such as
    bipolar disorder, or personality
  • A history of arrests.
  • A history
    of attempted suicide.
  • Feelings of suspicion or hostility.

Violent behavior may occur in cycles. First,
there is conflict and tension. This is followed by abuse of another or
destruction of property. This pattern usually repeats itself and gets worse
over time. If there is a cycle, learning to recognize
it may help you prevent violence from occurring.

If you are angry, hostile, or have violent behavior, it is important
to find help. You can learn ways to control your feelings and actions.


ByHealthwise Staff
Primary Medical Reviewer William H. Blahd, Jr., MD, FACEP – Emergency Medicine
Kathleen Romito, MD – Family Medicine
Specialist Medical Reviewer H. Michael O’Connor, MD – Emergency Medicine

Current as ofMay 3, 2017