Topic Overview

What decisions do you need to make about care at the end of life?

You will face many hard decisions as you near the end of
life. Those decisions will include what kind of care you’d like to receive,
where you’d like to receive care, and who will make decisions about your care
should you not be able to make decisions yourself.

You may hear these terms:

  • Curative treatment, which is any medical treatment that is given to cure your disease or to try to help you live longer.
  • Palliative care, which helps to provide relief from pain and any other symptoms you may have with your disease. The palliative care team will help coordinate your medical care with other doctors and help you with medical decisions. Palliative care also provides emotional and spiritual support for you and your loved ones.
  • Hospice care, which provides palliative care for people who are close to the end of life.

No one knows
when his or her time may come. So it’s a good idea to spend some time planning
what you want at the end of life. To be prepared:

  • Decide what kind of health care you want or don’t want. For
    example, you can decide whether you want
    CPR if your heart or breathing stops.
  • Let others know what you’ve decided. Consider writing an
    advance directive that includes a
    living will and a medical power of attorney (also
    called a
    durable power of attorney). A living will is a legal
    document that expresses your wishes for medical care if you are not able to
    speak or make decisions for yourself. A medical power of attorney lets you choose a health care agent. Your health care agent will have the legal right to
    make treatment decisions for you, not only at the end of your life but anytime
    you are not able to speak for yourself.
  • Decide whether you’d like to donate your organs.

Will you have to choose between types of care?

One thing to think about is what type of
medical care you want. Some people ask their doctors to do everything possible
to keep them alive. This is called curative treatment.

Others choose
palliative care, which does not try to cure your
illness. It looks at ways to make you more
comfortable. For example, palliative care may include giving you medicines to
help with pain or with the side effects from treatment. Palliative care team members may also provide physical therapy or help you if you are having problems such as anxiety or loss of appetite from chemotherapy.

You can
have both types of treatment. You can get palliative care to help keep you
comfortable, and you can take medicines or other treatments that might cure

A time may come when you decide to stop curative treatment if it is very clear that your illness
can’t be cured. You will still see your
doctor and get excellent care. And if your condition changes, you can start
curative treatment again. But if your illness is expected to get worse, you may want to plan ahead for that time by talking with your doctor. He or she will be the one to refer you for hospice care.

Hospice care is for people who are close to the end of life and are not likely to live for more than 6 months.

Where would you like to receive care as you are dying?

Another thing
to think about is where you’d like to receive care. Some people would rather be cared for in a
hospital. Others choose to be cared for at home or in a nursing home.

If you have only a few months left, you may choose to receive care
through hospice.
Hospice services are provided by a team of people that
includes doctors, nurses, and volunteers. The team gives palliative care and
emotional and spiritual support to people near the end of life and to their
families. It may offer practical support like running errands or fixing
meals. You can get hospice care in your home or in a hospice center, hospital,
or nursing home.

The costs are usually covered by Medicare, Medicaid, or private insurance. Care may also be available to those unable to pay.

What do you and your doctor need to know?

If you
find out that you have a life-threatening disease or condition, talk with your
doctor about the kind of medical care you’d like to receive. Ask a lot of
questions about your illness and the treatments that are available. It can be
helpful to have a friend or family member go to your appointments with you.
Also, share your advance
directives with your doctor.

How do you talk with your loved ones about your end-of-life choices?

It can be hard to talk with your loved ones about death. But it is important to discuss your choices while you can speak for yourself.
Planning ahead will help you and your loved ones make hard decisions when the
time comes.

Even though it might be awkward or uncomfortable, look
for chances to talk about your end-of-life choices. For example, you could
bring up the subject while you are making out your will. Or you could talk with
loved ones after a visit to the doctor. Family gatherings are another place to
make time to discuss your plans with loved ones.

Whatever you
decide and whenever you decide to talk with loved ones, be sure to put your
wishes in writing. You can always change your mind if your condition or your
wishes change.

Health Tools

Health Tools help you make wise health decisions or take action to improve your health.

Important Decisions

Many important decisions can be
made about the care you want to receive at the end of life while you are active
and able to communicate your wishes. By making arrangements in advance,
valuable time can be used to spend time with loved ones.

Communicating your health care decisions

completing an
advance directive, which documents your health care
preferences, you can help ensure your wishes will be respected if you become
unable to communicate for yourself.

An advance directive can
always be changed as your personal needs and goals change. Advance directives

  • A
    living will, which is a legal document that expresses
    your wishes for medical care if you become unable to speak or make decisions
    for yourself. It allows you to keep control over your medical treatment
    decisions at the end of life. Check the laws governing living wills in your
    state. When considering some of the more difficult end-of-life decisions, it
    may help to think about what kinds of medical procedures you would or would not
  • A medical power of attorney (or durable power of attorney
    for health care), which allows you to legally appoint a
    health care agent (also called a health care proxy) to
    make medical treatment decisions for you, not only at the end of your life but
    any time you are unable to speak for yourself. You can and should make
    decisions about your medical treatment for as long as you are able to make and
    communicate them. But when this is not possible, your health care agent can use
    both the written information in your living will plus what he or she
    knows about you personally to make decisions about your medical

For more information on choosing a health care agent and
writing an advance directive, see:

Organ donation

Organ donation is another important
decision to consider at the end of life. Many people need organ transplants
because of medical conditions such as kidney failure,
cornea disease, or
heart failure. After your death, you may be able to
donate certain organs depending on their condition. Talk to your doctor about
whether your illness allows you to be an organ donor.

If you
choose to donate, your organs may be distributed to one or more people, based
on blood and tissue type, the severity of the recipient’s medical condition,
how long the recipient has been waiting, and geographical location.

If you are interested in donating, you can indicate this on an organ
donor card, a witnessed document that states your desire to donate your organs.
On this card, you can specify which organs you wish to donate, or you can
choose to donate any organ that is needed at the time of your death. Many
states allow people to designate on their driver’s licenses their wishes
regarding organ donation.

People under the age of 18 must have a
parent’s or guardian’s consent to donate organs.

Even if you
complete a donor card or indicate your wishes on your driver’s license, it is
important to discuss your decision with your family. After your death, your
family may be asked to give consent prior to donating your organs. For this
reason, it is important to involve your family.

Organ donation
will not disfigure your body, nor will it interfere with your funeral,
including plans for an open casket funeral. You and your family will not be
responsible for the costs associated with organ donation. Those costs are paid
by the person who receives the organ.

Estate planning

As you make end-of-life decisions,
an attorney can advise you on how best to organize your estate so your family
can handle your affairs after your death. Also, a financial planner or social
worker may be available in your community or through a local hospital or
hospice program. If your finances are limited, some attorneys and accountants
offer services at a reduced rate or at no cost (pro bono).

planning may include:

  • Writing a will. If you already have a will,
    it may need to be updated. If you do not make your wishes known in a will, your
    state law may dictate what happens to your property when you die. Typically,
    property is distributed to a spouse, to children, or if there is no spouse or
    children, to other relatives. If no relatives can be found, your property may
    be taken by the state. Consider appointing a person to oversee your property
    after your death. This person is called an executor. After you write your will,
    keep it in a safe place, and let your executor and close family members know
    where it can be found.
  • Appointing someone to make financial
    decisions for you in the event you are unable to do so.
  • Choosing
    one or more people to care for your minor children (guardianship). A
    guardianship is a legal arrangement in which an adult has the court-ordered
    authority and responsibility to care for a child under the age of 18 or for an
    incapacitated adult.
  • Ensuring your records are in a safe,
    accessible place. Documentation of a life insurance policy, pension, retirement
    account, or annuity should be stored in a safe place, along with bank account
    information, deeds to real estate, or investment information. Close family
    members, the executor of your estate, and your attorney should know where this
    information is kept.

Choosing the care you want

As soon as you are diagnosed with a serious illness, you may benefit from palliative care to relieve pain and maintain comfort. For more information, see the topic
Palliative Care.

When you are diagnosed
with a life-threatening illness, it can be difficult to know how long you can expect to live. Talk with your doctor and your loved ones about when to start hospice. Many people do not start hospice until the last few weeks of life. Starting hospice sooner may help you and your family. For more information on this kind of care, see the topic Hospice Care.

Several factors may
impact your decision about the kind of care you want, including:

  • Your illness. If you are diagnosed with a
    serious illness, curative treatment options may be available. Certain diseases,
    such as skin cancer, testicular cancer, and cervical cancer, are often cured
    with appropriate medical treatment. Other serious illnesses, such as diabetes
    and AIDS, cannot be cured but can be managed successfully for many years. And
    some illnesses are more aggressive and life-limiting.
  • Your
    treatment options. Many medical treatment options offer the chance of curing a
    disease with little effect on the quality of your life. Other treatments may
    prolong your life but may be associated with side effects that drastically
    decrease the quality of your life.
  • Your age and other health
    conditions. Older people with multiple health problems may be more likely than
    healthier younger people to choose care that focuses on keeping them
    comfortable rather than keeping them alive as long as possible.

For more information on making the decision to stop
curative treatments, see:

Should I Stop Treatment That Prolongs My Life?

Talking to your doctor

When you are diagnosed with
a terminal disease or condition, it is important to communicate your
preferences and concerns clearly with your doctor. Likewise, you should expect
your doctor to communicate openly and sensitively with you and your loved ones.
Your doctor can provide information, answer questions, and advise you. But the
decisions are yours.

To get the most out of an appointment with your doctor:

  • Listen carefully to what your doctor says. Make sure you understand what you are told about any diagnosis or treatment.
  • Ask questions. If you don’t understand something your doctor says, ask for it to be repeated in a different way.
  • Be honest. If your values, beliefs, fears, or concerns may interfere with a treatment that is suggested, talk with your doctor about it. Other treatment options may be available.
  • Ask for instructions. Before leaving your doctor’s office, make sure you know what you are supposed to do to care for yourself. Ask for written information or instructions.

Important questions to ask your doctor include:

  • What is my diagnosis?
  • What are my
    treatment options? What are the side effects?
  • What might happen if I choose not to treat
    my illness?
  • How
    soon do I need to make a decision about which treatment to use (or to not
  • Should I take an antibiotic to treat an infection?
  • Can I stop taking any of my medicines, such as:
    • A bisphosphonate, which prevents osteoporosis?
    • A cholinesterase inhibitor, which reduces Alzheimer’s disease symptoms?
    • A statin, which prevents heart attack and stroke?

Other questions to ask your doctor include:

  • How long do you think I have to live?
  • Will you tell me when you think I am ready for hospice?
  • How will my illness and care affect my loved ones?

Prepare for your appointments
by writing down your questions and concerns and taking this paper to your
appointment. This will help you remember to address the important issues.

As your illness progresses, you may become too ill to continue seeing
your doctor at a clinic or to talk on the telephone. If you wish to be at home
as you die, it is helpful to designate only one family member or friend to
communicate with your doctor. Choosing one reliable person to relay messages
will help avoid the confusion caused by several people trying to communicate
with your doctor.

Aggressive life-sustaining medical treatment

Discuss with your loved ones and doctor how you feel about life-sustaining

Tough choices include whether you want cardiopulmonary
resuscitation (CPR) performed on you if your heart stops. If you stop
breathing, a ventilator or respirator may be used to mechanically breathe for
you. Although mechanical ventilation can prolong your life, your remaining days
may be spent in the intensive care unit of a hospital connected to life-support
equipment. You may not be fully alert and may not be able to speak.

Talk to your doctor about your illness, specific treatment options, and
chances for recovery. Your family is a key part of this process. Discuss your
options with them and clearly state your wishes. Some people who are facing
death have strong and definite feelings about CPR, and the decision for or
against life support may be easy. For other people, this decision is extremely

For more information on this decision, see:

Should I Receive CPR and Life Support?

Artificial hydration and nutrition

important treatment issue to consider is whether you want intravenous, or IV,
lines or feeding tubes to be used if you are no longer able to take food or
fluids by mouth. This is known as artificial hydration and nutrition. An IV is
a needle placed in your vein through which fluids, liquid nutritional
supplements, or medicines can be given. A feeding tube can be either a tube
inserted into the stomach through the nose (nasogastric, or NG, tube) or a tube
surgically inserted through the abdomen into the stomach (gastrostomy or PEG
tube, or g-tube). As with an IV line, liquid nutritional supplements, fluids,
or medicines can be given through a feeding tube. A third form of artificial
hydration, hypodermoclysis, involves the injection of fluids directly into
tissues beneath the skin (subcutaneous).

Changes in your body in
the final weeks of life reduce your need for food and water. You will likely
not be thirsty or hungry. You may feel better without artificial hydration or

Talk to your doctor if you
are considering artificial hydration and nutrition. Making a plan for IV fluids
and feeding tubes early in the course of your illness may be helpful if you are
faced later on with the decision to pursue or forgo these treatments. Remember
to communicate your wishes clearly with your family and your doctor.

For more information on this decision, see:

Should I Have Artificial Hydration and Nutrition?

Kidney dialysis

Deciding when to stop kidney
dialysis can be a difficult decision for people who have kidney failure. A person with kidney failure needs dialysis or a kidney
transplant to sustain life. Kidney failure often occurs after kidney damage has
been present for 10 years or more. It usually is caused by a chronic disease,
such as chronic renal disease or
diabetes, that slowly damages the kidneys and reduces
their function over time.

Although dialysis sustains life, it is
not a cure for kidney failure. Having
kidney disease means making difficult choices. Many people with kidney failure
live active, productive lives while having regular dialysis treatment. But
others do not feel as healthy and struggle with the complications of

For more information on this decision, see:

Should I Stop Kidney Dialysis?

Cardiac devices

If you have a heart device such as a pacemaker or an implantable cardioverter-defibrillator (ICD), talk to your doctor. You may want to have it turned off if you are terminally ill. Your doctor can explain how your heart device might affect you as you die.

Write down your decision about whether or not you want to have your heart device turned off and add this to your advance directive.

Where to Receive Care

Deciding where you will
receive care as your illness progresses can be challenging, but planning now
for your care can decrease your anxiety later on. Talk to your loved ones about
the type of care you would like to receive at the end of your life. Discuss
their expectations as well as your wishes, care needs, finances, and the needs
of your family. Your choice may change as your illness changes.

study of seriously ill patients in hospitals and their family members showed
that the most important elements of end-of-life care were:footnote 1

  • Trust and confidence in the doctor who is treating the
  • Having the option of not being on life
  • Effective communication between the patient, the patient’s
    family, and the doctor.

Several care options are available, including hospice,
home care, nursing home placement, or care from an assisted-living facility. Your choices may be limited by your medical coverage or what you can afford to pay.

Studies show that most people die in a hospital or nursing home. If you would prefer to have your final care at home, planning ahead may allow you to do so.

Hospice care

As death nears, you may choose to
receive help and support from
hospice. Hospice care focuses on using
palliative therapies exclusively to manage pain and
other symptoms when there is no cure for your condition and death is
anticipated within the next 6 months. Part of this care is keeping you as
alert and comfortable as possible in a familiar environment, surrounded by your
family and friends. When you choose hospice care, you agree to forego curative
and life-sustaining treatments. But you can change your treatment plan at any

Hospice care is provided by a team of health workers,
including nurses, social workers, volunteers, counselors, and personal care
assistants. Your doctor can continue to direct your care and work closely with
you and the hospice team. Hospice care most often occurs at your home, although
it can be given in a nursing home, a hospital, or a hospice center. If you
remain at home, the hospice team supports your family in their caregiving. And
“family” is not limited to your spouse (or partner) or blood relatives. Friends
from your workplace, church, community, or neighborhood may be considered part
of your family.

Hospice care seeks to relieve physical symptoms
and address your emotional, social, and spiritual needs, as well as the needs
of your loved ones. Hospice offers a chance to address difficult but normal
concerns that you and those you love may have about death and dying, such as
pain, unresolved issues, and caregiving needs. If you choose, the counseling
and support services that hospice provides will offer opportunities to work on
mending important relationships and to explore spiritual issues.

The hospice team can help with
advance directive forms and with legal and financial
affairs. Also, hospice staff can answer questions about treatment and what to
expect during the dying process. The team can also help with
physical needs, such as bathing and pain control.

Hospice services
are a benefit of many private health insurance policies. Check your health plan
for specific information about hospice coverage. Also, if you qualify for
Medicare benefits, hospice services are covered through the
Medicare hospice benefit.

For more
information on choosing hospice, see the topic
Hospice Care.

Home care

You may choose to remain at home as your
illness progresses, especially if you have a large support network of family
and friends who can help with your care. Another factor in making this choice
may be whether you have the financial resources to hire trained caregivers to
help your family with your care. Remaining at home in a familiar environment,
surrounded by loved ones, may be the best care option in these circumstances.

Community services are available to help your family provide care
for you at home. Talk to your doctor about receiving help from
hospice or a nursing agency. Make a list of people
who can help your family with your care, including people from work, church, or
community groups. In many larger communities, private case management practices
are available to help find and coordinate the services you may need in order to
be cared for at home.

Nursing home care

You may consider receiving care
in a nursing home if you are unable to remain at home during your illness. A
nursing home also may be the best option if you need more skilled care than can
be provided at home, or if a family member is unable to care for you because he
or she is ill, disabled, or elderly.

Information on
choosing a nursing home may help you as you decide
whether nursing home care is the best choice for you.

Assisted-living facilities

facilities are a popular alternative to nursing homes for people who can
provide the majority of their own care. Assisted-living facilities generally
offer individual rooms with limited cooking facilities in each unit. Residents
usually meet in a dining room for meals. Housekeeping and laundry services,
social activities, and access to a nurse are typically provided.

Some assisted-living facilities are connected to a nursing home. In these
facilities, you can transfer from the assisted-care facility to the nursing
home when you are no longer able to provide your own care. Get written
information from the assisted-living facility about what is expected if your
condition gets worse and you are no longer able to care for yourself. Many
assisted-living facilities require that the resident move to a nursing home or
hire a personal caregiver if skilled care is needed.

for assisted-living facilities vary from state to state.

The Dying Process

If you are dying or are caring for
a dying loved one, you may have questions and concerns about what will happen
physically and emotionally as death approaches. The following information may
help answer some of these questions.

Signs of approaching death

The dying process is as
variable as the birthing process. The exact time of death cannot be predicted,
nor can the exact manner in which a person will die. But people in advanced
stages of a terminal illness experience many similar symptoms as they approach
the end of life, regardless of their illness.

Several physical and
emotional changes
occur as death approaches, including:

  • Excessive sleepiness and weakness as
    periods of wakefulness become shorter and overall energy
  • Breathing changes, such as periods of rapid breathing
    alternating with short episodes when breathing stops.
  • Visual and hearing changes, such as seeing people or scenes that others do not
  • Decreased appetite as your metabolism
    slows and you no longer have the same interest in food.
  • Urinary and bowel changes, such as dark or red urine and hard stools that are
    difficult to pass (constipation).
  • Temperature changes,
    such as running a high temperature or feeling very cold.
  • Emotional changes, such as becoming less interested in the outside world and being
    less socially involved with others.

Dying people may also experience symptoms specific to
their illness. Talk to your doctor about what to expect. Also, if you have
chosen to receive
hospice care, the hospice team is available to answer
any questions you may have about the dying process. The more you and your loved
ones know, the better prepared you will be to cope with what is


Palliative care can help you feel
relief from physical symptoms related to your illness, such as nausea or
difficulty breathing.
Pain control and symptom control are important parts of managing your illness
and improving the quality of your life.

Whether a person suffers
from physical pain in the days before death often depends on the illness. Some
terminal illnesses, such as bone or pancreatic cancer, are more likely to be
accompanied by physical pain than others.

Pain and other symptoms
can be so feared that a person considers
physician-assisted death. But pain associated with the
dying process can almost always be managed effectively.
Any new or worse pain should be reported to your family and your
doctor. Many medicines and alternative methods (such as massage) are available
to treat the pain associated with dying. Do not hesitate to ask for help. Have
a loved one report your pain if your illness prevents you from communicating
with your doctor.

You may want to protect your family from your
suffering. But it is important to tell them if your pain level is not tolerable
so they can tell your doctor right away.

If you and your doctor are not able to control your pain, ask about seeing a pain management specialist. This is a doctor who finds ways to treat pain that won’t go away.


Spirituality refers to a person’s
sense of meaning and purpose in life. It also refers to a person’s relationship
to a higher power or an energy that gives life meaning.

people do not think of spiritual matters often. For others, spirituality is a
part of daily life. Facing the end of your life may cause you to confront your
own spiritual questions and issues. Organized religion provides comfort to many
people as they face death. Others may find solace in exploring nature, through
community involvement, by strengthening existing relationships, or by
developing new relationships. Think about what provides comfort and support to
you. What questions and concerns do you have? Don’t hesitate to ask for support
from friends, family, hospice, or spiritual advisers.

Caring for a dying loved one

The dying process can
be a time for growth. It offers the dying person and his or her family and
friends a time to mend relationships, share memories, and say their good-byes.
If you are a
caregiver, it is important to communicate openly with
your dying loved one. Also, seek support from others and
take care of yourself so you don’t become physically and mentally

After Death


autopsy is the thorough examination of a body after
death to help determine how and why a person died. Autopsies are not performed
as frequently as they have been in the past, especially when the death is

An autopsy is often not needed to determine the cause
of death when a person dies of a disease or condition that had been diagnosed.
If a diagnosis and cause of death is unclear, some families may wish to have an
autopsy done. This can provide family members with information about diseases
or conditions that they also may be at risk for developing.

members should find out the cost of an autopsy before one is arranged. For more
information, see the topic

Should I Have an Autopsy Done on My Loved One?

Grieving the death of a loved one

Grief following
a loved one’s death is a normal, healthy reaction. It is a gradual process that
helps people begin to accept their loss and to adjust to life without their
loved one. It often takes 2 years or more to go through the most intense
emotions of the grieving process. Although the pain of grief fades over time,
the sense of loss after a loved one’s death never completely goes away.

People experience grief physically and emotionally in their own ways.
After a death, it is common for survivors to wonder if their grief is normal.
Shock, denial, anger, and guilt are all common reactions after the death of
someone close. For example, a person may feel angry toward other family
members, a higher being, or even at the person who died. Or survivors may feel
guilty because their loved one had a long illness and they are relieved that
the death finally occurred. These all are normal
reactions to loss.

Survivors need to be patient with themselves,
and they need to seek help and support from others.
Grief counseling may help some people who are having
difficulty with the grieving process.

For more information about
surviving the death of a loved one, see the topic
Grief and Grieving.

Other Places To Get Help


Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services: Nursing Home Compare (U.S.)
National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization: Caring Connections (U.S.)



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ByHealthwise Staff
Primary Medical Reviewer Anne C. Poinier, MD – Internal Medicine
Kathleen Romito, MD – Family Medicine
E. Gregory Thompson, MD – Internal Medicine
Adam Husney, MD – Family Medicine
Elizabeth T. Russo, MD – Internal Medicine
Specialist Medical Reviewer Jean S. Kutner, MD, MSPH – Geriatric Medicine,

Current as ofOctober 6, 2017